Neuroaffirming Goal Setting

Traditional goal-setting often pressures neurodivergent people, both children and adults, to fit into neurotypical expectations. But true support isn’t about making someone think or behave in a “typical” way;  instead, it’s about recognising, celebrating, and embracing neurodivergent ways of being while helping individuals navigate the world in ways that honour their unique needs, strengths, and interests. This is where neuroaffirming goal setting comes in.

Neuroaffirming goals do not aim to change or “correct” differences but rather to empower neurodivergent individuals to be their full, authentic selves. Whether in play therapy, school, work, or daily life, these goals help build self-understanding, confidence, and meaningful engagement with the world.

For neurodivergent children, and the neurodivergent adults that they become, goals should focus on:

• Reducing struggles – finding ways to minimise distress and create supportive environments, rather than just expecting kids (or adults) to “cope” with challenges alone.
• Increasing joy and ease – prioritising what feels good, whether it’s sensory-friendly activities, special interests, or restful downtime.
• Supporting interests – encouraging deep engagement with personal passions, whether that’s through play, creative outlets, or learning.
• Building daily life strategies – identifying tools and routines that help navigate challenges like transitions, executive functioning difficulties, or sensory overload.
• Recognising and accessing support – teaching children (and adults) to understand their needs and seek help when necessary, whether from family, teachers, therapists, or the broader community.
• Celebrating differences – Encouraging self-acceptance by validating unique perspectives, strengths, and ways of thinking. Neurodivergence isn’t something to “overcome”—it’s a part of who someone is, and that deserves recognition and respect.

By shifting away from “fixing” neurodivergent people and toward helping them thrive on their own terms, we foster self-worth, connection, and confidence. Neuroaffirming goal setting gives children and adults permission to be fully themselves, ensuring they experience more ease, fulfilment, and joy in their lives.

This blog was written by Alice Robinson
MAChildPThy, MA Creative Arts Therapy, GDipEd(Prim), BMus, ANZACATA Registered